Marriage & religion
Sep 14, '07 1:04 AMfor everyone
In some religion a believer has to find a spouse in the same believers. That makes easier to find a spouse. But once they got married they have to keep on follow the same way of life according to the religion. If one abandoned the belief, the two has to separate.
It seems true marriage lies in different place than religion.
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siliconjesus wrote on Sep 14
That seems to be going by the wayside, at least in mainstream America (I'd imagine the same is true in Europe). I'm an athiest and my wife's Catholic, so you can't get much more different than those two.


mercedo wrote on Sep 14
That's a good trend I assume. Religion merely regulates how people believe in their inner world. This inner world oughtn't regulate our outer very important social frame, that is marriage in form. But in fact virtually it's very hard to find a believer of any faith in Japan so my Japanese girlfriends were non believers. On the other hands my foreign girlfriends were Christians. Those distinctions had no meaning at all on our love.

ullangoo wrote on Sep 17
I don't suppose religion matters much as long as you don't have children. Then it does, unless the parents can agree on teaching them both religions - or one and none - and letting the children choose for themselves. Many religious people will agree to no such thing. I don't think such a conflict makes a happy family.


mercedo wrote on Sep 18
ullangoo saidI don't suppose religion matters much as long as you don't have children. Indeed difference in religion matters a lot in married couples. Like some want to hold marriage ceremony either in Christian or Shintoist's. Funeral ceremony in Christian or Buddhist's. Many years ago I went to Catholic church a couple of times with a Philippina girlfriend. It was Ok to attend the service just a couple of times, though, it was just unimaginable for a complete secular person to keep on attending the church service every Sunday. As to the case of kid..about ten years ago I met a Danish woman who came to learn Japanese language at the university. She told me her trouble in the past when she was a kid. That is her father who wants her to learn in Protestant school and her mother in Catholic. Personally I am opposed to any particular religious education. Kid's minds are tabula rasa, easily dyed in a specific idea. It is only acceptable when they taught only universal moral value, not any particular teachings of their religion.

ullangoo wrote on Sep 18
I'm opposed to religious education too. I mean, I'd teach a child anything from Greek mythology to Catholicism, always emphasizing that this is what SOME people believe or believed and that it's up to the child to choose his/her beliefs after he/she has studied the subject - or believe a bit from this and a bit from that (rather what I do) or none of it. It's a purely personal choice.Imagine the clash I'd have if my children's father were a firm believer in a specific religion? Er - there are no Protestant schools in Denmark. There are the state schools that are completely secular since 1960 or thereabouts - probably what the father preferred - and then a few private schools, some of which are Catholic.